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8 Signs Someone Loves You More Than You Give Them Credit For – Healthy Style

8 Signs Someone Loves You More Than You Give Them Credit For

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Oftentimes we make the mistake of measuring how much someone loves us simply by how they make us feel, or how overt they are about the behaviors that we think represent their feelings toward us. The truth is that it’s really impossible to feel or know exactly how someone else experiences their relationship with us emotionally, and while that’s an interesting dynamic in and of itself, what we do need to be mindful of is that so often in our most intimate relationships, we overlook, disregard, and take for granted what are otherwise gestures and symbols of real, honest, deep, genuine love.

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More often in romantic relationships, we overestimate how much people love us. We do this as a sort of self-preservation tactic. We assume that we can push their buttons just a little farther (they’ll stay!) or we delude ourselves into believing someone is far more invested than they are simply because the alternative is too heartbreaking to bear. While all of this ultimately leads to dysfunction and heartbreak, there’s another side of the coin: what happens when we underestimate someone’s love, just because we don’t “speak” their love language.

There’s not one “right” or exact formula to be able to understand just how much someone loves you, there are definitely some habits and signals that they genuinely care about you, perhaps more than you give them credit for. Be on the lookout for these, and consider that maybe, there’s more love in your life than you realize.

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They Aren’t Inconvenienced By Your Feelings

You know you’ve been extra complain-y lately, and maybe in a bad mood for a few days in a row at least. Yet, your significant other doesn’t really see it that way, nor are they holding it against you. Sure, you had a bad night or two, but they aren’t inconvenienced by your normal, natural range of emotions and experiences.

You Trust Them

You feel comfortable enough to share every part of your life — no matter how messy or human it is. You don’t feel like you have to hide the fact that hair does in fact grow in places where you like to pretend it doesn’t or that you’re sometimes out of money or that you don’t always like how you look. That’s what it means to trust someone.

They’re Loyal To You

It’s not that they say they’ll be loyal to you, but that they actually are. You could never dream of them being unfaithful or speaking ill of you behind your back — yet you don’t realize what a rarity and privilege it is.

They Want To Change For You

While you can’t change anybody (nor can you expect them to change because you want them to), when someone really loves you, they usually want to change themselves. They want to be better for you, to be the best version of themselves possible.

While you can’t change anybody (nor can you expect them to change because you want them to), when someone really loves you, they usually want to change themselves. They want to be better for you, to be the best version of themselves possible.

They Want To Commit, And Commit For Good

Even if prior to knowing you they were all up on the “I want to live my life sans a relationship” train, they have since gotten off at the next stop, and are firmly planting their feet in their relationship with you. They realize that they don’t have to give up their personal freedom or happiness or autonomy for a relationship — but even if they did, you’re worth it.

They Go Out Of Their Way To Do Small Things For You Each Day

They pick up your coffee or straighten up your apartment after you’ve fallen asleep. They grab the bill for your pizza slice or rub your neck when it hurts. They prove that love is, indeed, in the little things.

It’s Not That They Don’t Hold Anything Against You — But That They Don’t Even Judge You In The First Place

They’re not out for blood. They don’t roll their eyes at your fourth burrito run of the week or your funny taste in music or not washing your hair for two days too long. (I need to break the fourth wall here to say I am speaking about myself specifically.)

They’re Just Happy When They’re Around You — And It Shows

You make them smile and think and just feel happy to be alive and with you. You may not realize it, but all the cheesy, typical things are true: their face lights up with they’re around you, they want to spend all of their time with you, and they love you, really no matter what.

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4 Zodiac Signs The April 2019 Full Moon Will Affect The Most

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We’re building up to an exciting Libra full moon this month, and astrologically, it marks a precipice of change in in a myriad of areas — especially for relationships, money, and love. This particularly special luminary rises on Friday, April 19, and it’s bringing with it an opportunity to close doors to the rooms we no longer want to spend our days in — as well as an opportunity for new doors (filled with shiny, new opportunities) to open.

If you’re feeling a lil’ bit of déjà vu here, it’s because, yes, the last full moon we had in March also rose in the sign of Libra — marking this as a rare back-to-back series of full moons in the same sign. “The Libra Full Moon on Friday, April 19, is special because it’s the second Libra Full Moon of the year,” explained astrologer Pam Ciampi in Llewellyn’s 2019 Daily Planetary Guide of the second in this double Libra luminaries“This offers an unusual second chance to bring your outstanding financial and relationship issues to a proper conclusion (again).”

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The April full moon is going to be one that asks us to tie up loose ends and finally implement the changes that we’ve teetered on the edge of lately. Bustle spoke with astrologer Lisa Stardust, who provided more insight: “This luminary falls at the sensitive degree at 29 Libra ([it’s] the second Libra full moon of the season), which means certain signs will be forced to implement change and growth around relationships, love, and money,” she explains. This moon reaches its peak at the very last degree of Libra, and it also marks the wrap-up to fiery Aries season, as the sun moves into Taurus the very next day. That said, impending changes are on the horizon, and we’re all the edge of something very new, very welcome, and very refreshing.

A quick word of advice, though? Slow yourself down and think things through, because while this full moon will fire us up and encourage us to implement changes and wrap up projects, it also requires some impulse control on our part if we’re looking for long term success. “If [certain signs] do not move fast, they will be successful, as planets at this degree tend to superzoom forward without thought,” explains Stardust. “Being careful and conscious of actions will serve beneficial under this Full Moon.”

This full moon is certainly going to affect everybody, but for some signs, it’s going to be an extra potent time for changes, feelings, and full-moon intensity. The zodiac signs most affected by the April 2019 full moon have a little more on their plates during this luminary, so read on to find out if you’re one of them.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

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Libra full moons have a tendency to shed light on partnerships (since that’s kind of Libra’s bag), so call on the sign’s natural ability to mediate and balance to help you navigate the intense vibes you’re likely to be served up in that department. “All relationships are a main concern — as past issues begin to surface,” explains Stardust. “Balance out the emotions and energy you give to others, instead of giving all your time to them.” Your feelings are hot to the touch, but breathe deep and remember that give and take is essential to any healthy relationship.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

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The tides of change have been knocking you around, but this full moon will inspire you to take charge of your future in a serious way. “You are now drawn to changing personal matters, manifesting a new relationship with your family and even your core friends,” shares Stardust. “A move or change of scenery will be needed to help get you back in the swing of things.” Time to hit the spiritual reset button on any area of your life that’s draining you instead of boosting you up where you belong.

Libra (Sept. 23 – Oct. 22)

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A second consecutive full moon in your sun sign is majorly prosperous, and it’s lighting up your ability remain grounded in yourself rather than trying to view yourself through the eyes of other people, as you tend to do. “You are shifting the focus onto yourself, away from how others view you, allowing yourself to evolve into the person of your dreams,” explains Stardust to Bustle. Your outward-oriented viewpoint is a gift, but you must journey inward in order to become the person you’re meant to be. Allow this moon to close a chapter, making room for the next.

Capricorn (Dec. 22 – Jan. 19)

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The Libra full moon is an intense one for you, and you may be feeling the pressure especially hard in your professional life — but pumping the brakes and thinking logically will help you navigate the chaos gracefully. “Work may bring challenges your way. However, you can survive as long as you stay in your land and stand true to your goals,” advises Stardust. “Watch out for backstabbing around the office or gossip. Remember, no matter what happens — choose the high road.” Be the better person and come out the other side with a new perspective and a freshly-paved road ahead.

4 Zodiac Signs The April 2019 Full Moon Will Affect The Least

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On Friday, April 19, we’re all in for a sweet lunar treat — as the April full moon in Libra will light up the skies and offer us a lovely opportunity to tie up loose ends when it comes to the Venus-ruled parts of our lives, and simultaneously charge forward with fresh ideas. This is actually the second in a back-to-back duo of full moons in Libra, which is a rare event indeed! Such an occurrence offers us a second chance to spruce things up, find our footing, and close tired chapters in the romance and money departments, especially.

Ruled by romance planet Venus, Libra is the sign of partnerships, so having a full moon here is putting a spotlight on relationships. Given that Venus also rules over money and luxury, we’ll also feel effects professionally — and upping our self-care game is an important part of staying present during this luminary.

Bustle spoke with astrologer Blue June about the upcoming full moon in Libra vibes and what we’ll all be feeling overall. “We should all be looking forward to this Libra full moon as it brings stability,” she explains. “Many of us have been feeling the earth moving under our feet [and] a sense of confusion, and this moon will provide solid ground to stand on.” Coming off the recent Mercury retrograde (and its post shadow period), things have certainly been topsy turvy — so this second full moon in Libra feels like the energy boost we’re looking for. “[I]f you’re not sure which direction to take next, pay attention to the synchronicities around you and be ready for the divine guidance of this Libra full moon,” June advises.

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That said, some signs are going to feel the effects of this luminary a little differently, depending on their signs. Bustle also spoke with astrologer Lisa Stardust, who weighed in on who might be in for a slower-paced full moon weekend. “This Full Moon will trigger some signs to slow down and even relax,” she shares. “The Libra Moon loves to indulge in self-care and these 4 sun signs will use that energy to the max during this luminary.”

Check out the deets on the zodiac signs least affected by the April 2019 full moon to see if you’re in for a wild ride or a slow n’ easy roll through this lunar transit.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

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No full moon party necessary, Taurus — this luminary is the perfect time to chill at home, nest, and get your affairs in order. “You’re a busy bee, organizing your projects and work during this luminary,” shares Stardust. “It’s a great time for much needed spring cleaning for you, Taurus.” Clear out the old files from your computer, photos in your phone, and dust in your apartment and you’ll be feeling tip-top.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

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Ideas upon ideas have been swirling through your mind lately, Gem, and you can expect this full moon to be a sweet and breezy moment of clarity for your next steps. “This luminary will bring creative visions to a head, leading to the end of a project,” explains Stardust. “You will have time to relax and enjoy the good seasonal spring vibes over the weekend.” Kick back for now, then sail into your next move.

Scorpio (Oct. 23 – Nov. 21)

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Life has been exhausting, and giving a lot of yourself to others takes a big load out of you — especially when you’re a sensi and introspective water sign! “Take a break from life and indulge yours by sleeping in or tuning out from the world,” advises Stardust. “Everyone, including you, needs time for themselves once in a while.” There’s no shame in the game of self-care and springtime hibernation. Embrace the solitude.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22 – Dec. 21)

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Winter was a long and exhausting season, but springtime is bringing fresh blooms in more ways than one. Allow the social energy of this full moon to connect you with your best babes. “Friends will rally around to support you, offering you hope and inspiration to carry on — no matter what setbacks stand in your way,” shares Stardust. You’ve already overcome some major obstacles with your friend’ support, so trust they’ve got your back through anything.

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